I received something magical this morning. My husband has worked two late shifts back to back. This morning we all over slept; including him! This week we are down to one vehicle. So we all piled up in the SUV to drop daddy off at work.
It has been a rough year on my marriage to say the least. Yesterday was a rough day. It's never fun when you are fighting with your spouse. I do not have a fairy tale marriage and never will. We are both sinners saved by grace. Satan is out to seek and destroy a little at a time. Sometimes you don't even realize it until you have divorce papers in your hand. Have you been there?
When my husband and I first got married, he would kiss me bye every morning. Somewhere along the way he stopped. Neither one of us could pin point when. But it just stopped and didn't bother either one of us. Maybe after a fight or two.
So back to yesterday. We both were mad. So when he left for work, he didn't kiss me bye. I'm going to be honest with you. I haven't wanted his kisses, hugs, any intimacy since the attack on our marriage. He hurt me really bad. I've been praying for God to heal my brokenness and to restore my marriage because I do love my husband. Yesterday when he didn't kiss me bye, I was upset. I addressed it right away.
So today when we dropped him off, I was about to pull out when he blocked me with his work truck. I thought he must have forgotten something in the truck so I rolled down the window. When he got to the window, I looked at him and he embraced my face with his hands and leaned in and gave me the most tender kiss. I felt a magical spark amongst the kids yelling "ewwww! They're kissing". A spark that I feared I'd never feel again. It was magical. Oh, and it was raining!!! Just like in the movies!
A restored marriage doesn't happen over night. Just as it does not break over night. It truly is the small things that will make or break it. Just like if you have a small boat. If you don't give it the attention it needs over time it will become tattered. It might be able to stay afloat in the calmness of waters, but when the first storm comes it sinks as you regret not adding one small nail here and there.
It's not if, but when the hard times come be ready to face the storm together. Here are a few small things I will be focusing on daily to make my marriage stronger (Marcus, you will have to help me;)...there is nothing impossible for God. It's just going to take a little work on our part.
1.) Kiss on the lips.
2.) Snuggle in bed.
3.) Listen carefully about his day, worries, and dreams.
4.) Pray together.
5.) Find a hobby that we both enjoy to do together.
There are so many I can list, but this is my start! Please share with me some of the small things you do to make your marriage stronger.
Ps. Don't ever get comfortable in your marriage. Trust me...keep the spark alive!
